The philosophy of failure. How failures help you achieve success
Many people have a cherished dream. But why does not everyone decide to implement it? Perhaps it is because it is simply afraid to take on a difficult task: what if it doesn’t work out?
This article will be useful for those who want to start their own business, but are afraid that they will not succeed. And also for those who are constantly faced with new complex tasks and do not know how to start them. And, of course, those who have just experienced failure and think that this will always be the case.
Success does not come to anyone immediately. It is usually preceded by a series of failures that we know nothing about.
The great loser
Thomas Edison, for example, failed 1,000 times before the light bulb lit up. He later said: “I haven’t had 1000 failed attempts to light a light bulb. I just took 1000 steps to invent the light bulb.”
Walt Disney — no one needs to explain who he is now-was fired from the Kansas City Star newspaper at the age of 22 for “lack of creative thinking,” and his first company, Laugh-o-gram Studios, went bust.
Stephen king at the age of 20 offered his novel “Carrie “to one of the us publishers, and it was returned with the wording” we are not interested in science fiction with a negative view of the world. Such stories are not for sale.” In total, the novel, which later became a cult, was not accepted by 30 publishers.
Steven Spielberg failed to enroll at the University of southern California three times due to poor school test results. In 1994, the Director of “Jaws”, “Jurassic Park” and “Indiana Jones” was given an honorary degree at the University.
JK Rowling, the billionaire writer and author of the Harry Potter series of books, Received rejections from 12 publishers before her novel agreed to be published by Bloomsbury.
The list of successful people who at the beginning of their life had to face rejection, misunderstanding and skepticism about their abilities could go on and on.
Many people still think that a failure in some business indicates that they do not have the necessary knowledge, skills, and in General — competence, so it is better not to try at all, so as not to lose faith in yourself, or by any means avoid mistakes.
However, this is not the case. Often it really doesn’t work out the first time. How to survive a failure, not to give up and continue to move towards the goal? Here’s what to do.
Focus on results
One of the most serious obstacles to success is the fear of failure. In fact, being afraid of losing is worse than actually failing, because it leads to the fact that many people do not use their potential.
To stop being afraid of failure, you need to change your attitude to it. The authors of a study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that it is easier for people to succeed if they are focused on the result of their actions, rather than worrying about how not to make a mistake.
Yes, in a difficult case, we all try not to make mistakes, but it is better to think about the goals that need to be achieved than about caution.
To set ourselves achievable goals
When you clearly realize that you are able to complete the task that you have set for yourself, it motivates you to work — and you will immediately stop being afraid.
For clarity, it makes sense to write down what you intend to achieve, place the list in a prominent place, and make sure that each phrase begins with the expression “I must” or “I will”, and not with “I will try”.
Forget about “I’ll try” at all.
Barry Effron, an American businessman, founder of Effron Enterprises Inc., who made a fortune working with information systems in the field of financial investments, says that such expressions simply can not be used, with such installations you will not actually do anything.
To make your goals really look achievable, divide big tasks into small ones: as you achieve them, you will go step by step to success.
Stop thinking about what will happen if you fail
An imaginary failure is far worse than a real failure. This is also claimed by scientists, this time Dutch .
A series of experiments by researchers from the Netherlands was devoted to comparing the feelings that people feel when they imagine that they will not succeed, with their emotions in the event of a real failure.
Scientists divided the participants in the experiment into pairs and warned them that they would have to do a task. A prize was awarded for successful completion.
Half of the “test subjects” were asked to describe how they would feel if they failed. The other part was not told anything like this, but when the task was completed, these people were told that they did not succeed, moreover, they were to blame for the failure of their pair.
After that, all the participants in the experiment were asked how they feel now.
It turned out that those who imagined failure in advance experienced much stronger negative emotions than those who did not think about failure, but really did not succeed.
The fact is that the subjects who were supposed to predict their feelings overestimated the significance of their future guilt and the irretrievability of the error.
Perhaps this is why people refuse to fulfill their most cherished dreams: they think that if they do not succeed, it will be a disaster.
But a study conducted by specialists of the Kellogg school of management showed that we underestimate our bitter feelings associated with the fact that we did not try to make a serious step.
Yes, at some point it is so scary to act that inaction seems safer and more justified.
But the more time passes since we made the decision not to do anything, the more often we think back to that moment and regret that we never tried.
Wasted opportunities and untapped opportunities will forever remain with us. Isn’t that a reason to do something you’ve always been afraid of?
Think of any project as a series of experiments
No scientific experiment works the first time. In fact, it is an experiment — you can only get to the truth through trial and error.
In your career and business, it’s the same: any new business is a risk, but you stumble along the right path.
Any mistake can be turned to your advantage if you take it as a lesson. More precisely, as a signal: now you know what not to do and what to fix.
In fact, the popular Agile project management system is based on this philosophy.
Instead of trying to debug a product (e.g. mobile app), its release to the market is barely developed, so all the bugs to fix already on the way out, according to consumer reviews who experienced the product in practice.
Admit that you made a mistake, not hide it
We have already learned that we should not be afraid of failure. But what if something did go wrong?
First of all, you should openly admit this to your subordinates, superiors, and anyone who needs to know about it.
Keep in mind that when explaining yourself to other people, you should not make excuses for yourself or blame others. We need to find an explanation for why this happened.
Next, you will simply have to figure out how to fix everything (in a good case, you will already have a backup plan for how to do it). And get back to work.
You may fail again, but this will only mean that you have not yet found the right path. And you will find it. Just don’t stop looking.
Draw conclusions and move on
1. Failure does not happen only for those who do not do anything. They do not have success.
2. Any failure allows us to draw conclusions and to learn from their mistakes.
3. If it didn’t work out once, it doesn’t mean that it won’t work out the second or third time.
4. when Planning something, do not say “I will try”, but if you do not succeed, it should be perceived as a failed attempt. The next one will be more successful.
5. to Openly admit your mistake means to give yourself a chance to correct yourself and show yourself a responsible person who you can rely on.